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Although me and UrInsanity met irl and I can she certainly lives up to her name.

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Honestly, I could care less what my exes do. They have no place in my life so why should I care what they do with it? Now if they start an argument with me that's a whole other story as I'll defend myself. I tend to treat the people who hurt me badly as if they never existed. They have a life just like I have a life. It's good to move on and forget the past.

those who forget the past, are doomed to repeat it.

Not exactly. You can still remember the lesson you learned but don't need to remember the person who hurt you. The saying "those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it" is vague and depends on the situation.

all information is useful, not all lessons are learned immediately after the encounter, many lesson require self-reflection, and reflection of others.

No lessons are really learned right after the encounter. It takes time and it takes effort and you're right about the self-reflection. What you're wrong about is that all information is useful in this type of situation. The only useful information is the mistakes you made and the regret that follows with those mistakes and the want to better yourself. The people who hurt you are only obstacles to a successful social life.

no, this is your mistake, an assumption, a lot of information is held in memories, recollection can bring you to every small detail, the persons reaction to certain things you said can give you a better idea as to how people will respond to you- to improve communication. this is just one example, many others, even some that i do not forsee, are not only entirely possible, but also highly likely.

Eh what my point is remembering the person themselves isn't what's important. That brings more problems than it helps because you remember things you did to that person. Now if the situation was all your fault that's an entirely different story. However, most situations it's never entirely one person's fault. You don't want to make yourself depressed as that has more drawbacks than good. I will say this my situation with my exes are far from one sided and 2 of them were really good at guilt tripping and using it to manipulate. Anyway, my point is you want to remember enough where you regret it and do your best to fix. It'd be counterproductive to remember so much that it brings you into depression, I have enough of that thank you very much. I don't need more mental breakdowns which effect my already deteriorating physical health lol

i have had that same issue because i remember "too much" but that just means when i find the strength to rise above that depression i am smarter and stronger than the average person.

Actually bringing yourself into depression(it'd be deep depression for me) isn't healthy at all especially for someone like me who has an autoimmune disease(lupis which is worse in stressful situations). The less amount of stress and deep depression I bring myself into the better. I've been doing just fine the way I have been doing things. I'm a different person offline than I am online. Online I do a lot of bad things I wouldn't think of doing offline for my amusement

that's just because you are mentally weaker, you have difficulty being triumphant over your own mental issues, nothing against you, i'm sure it probably has everything to do with your autoimmune disease. still doesn't mean what i said isn't true for at least me, if not for a fair percentage of the population.

Not mentally weaker. Heartbreak can damage mental strength severely. I've learned to have a strong mind or be in not only intense mental pain but physical pain as well. Let me tell you your own antibodies attacking your organs is not a fun experience. For you maybe remembering everything helps you but for me it doesn't. Everyone has different ways they can deal with the past in a good way. I'm not sure putting yourself through a lot of mental pain is a good thing though. I'm pretty sure it's mentally damaging and will make you way too wary of people. Your way is part of the reason you say you are in real life. You've damaged yourself more than you fixed yourself if you know what I'm saying.

Yeah the other people who hurt you played parts in it but how you handle a situation is key to how you come out after it. No offense dude but you have some pretty bad mental damage and I'm afraid your way of handling may have damaged you more than you think.

it all depends on perspective, in a world full of weak pussies i'm considered the weak one. in a world that is full of savage warmongers i'd be considered a nitwit, an underachiever, a wannabe, i strike the balance between civility and savagery, nightmare and reality. the gangs, criminal dynasties, the cartel, see me as someone not to be crossed, the able-bodied citizens, good Samaritans, the elderly, and the young, see me as a monster, someone too damaged for anything. i've been through hell in back it's a miracle that i'm not convicted of multiple homicides among multiple ther atrocities, no offense dude but even though i'm about a year and a half younger than you, you have much to learn of the world, so do i, but you have more to learn than i do. it's good to be overly-cautious, it's just not good to reveal your caution immediately.

it all depends on perspective, in a world full of weak pussies i'm considered the weak one. in a world that is full of savage warmongers i'd be considered a nitwit, an underachiever, a wannabe, i strike the balance between civility and savagery, nightmare and reality. the gangs, criminal dynasties, the cartel, see me as someone not to be crossed, the able-bodied citizens, good Samaritans, the elderly, and the young, see me as a monster, someone too damaged for anything. i've been through hell in back it's a miracle that i'm not convicted of multiple homicides among multiple other atrocities, no offense dude but even though i'm about a year and a half younger than you, you have much to learn of the world, so do i, but you have more to learn than i do. it's good to be overly-cautious, it's just not good to reveal your caution immediately.

Eh I don't think you know much of what I went through because I don't share it on here. The only people who can claim to know about my life is my family. I like to keep my life private. All you know is my families rich, you don't know the troubles I went through, how my family life has been, etc.

One thing I can tell you is I'm not allowed to live my own life, stuff is decided for me.

that's pathetic, oh boo hoo, at least you have a family, one that cares, at least you have a proper roof over your head you don't have to fight for. at least you never have months where you go hungry.

"one that cares" Yeah I don't think you can say anything about that. Never gone hungry? Incorrect, it's the reason my mother divorced my father. My mother and I hardly get along at all. I don't think you get the part where at least you're allowed to live your own life and follow your own dreams. Mine is I either follow what my mom wants me to do or I'm disowned, simple as that. I can say she rarely gets physical with me but the difference between you and me is I don't fight back because fighting back would get me in LOADS of trouble. At least you have the right to choose what you want to do with your life because I don't. You can complain that your life's horrible but honestly from what you've said you're making your own life horrible to a point. You have a gangster attitude which is quite frankly most likely the reason why you're fighting so hard to have a roof over your head. You could get a job which pays for apartments worth of rent. Don't talk to me about having a fantastic life when I don't. I didn't share everything either because there's much more going on than that which I sure as hell am not willing to share on a social media site.