Girl on youtube "There is one thing in many relationships that I don't understand. I'm a woman and I've been happy with my boyfriend for 8 months. This is my first time dating someone (I'm 19 though). Some of my female classmates in college said things like "that guy seems great, you should put him to good use and ask him to buy you things" or that "he should always pay"... That's not dating, that's slavery. And it's not loving someone, it's abusing of them. How could someone do that ?! Now I don't have any respect for these girls.
And there's something else, too. A lot of people, even at my age, ask people out... Just because. They don't love them. Saying that "falling in love comes after"... What's the point ? I don't understand. This is so unrespectful."
Me: dating is fun, you dont date someone because you love them, if you wait til you start loving someone before dating them, then you're probably never going to get the chance to date them in the first place because they are going to move on. dating is how you get to know someone, that is the point of dating, taking them out for coffee or tea or burgers or whatever, wholesome conversation. yes... love comes after dating because you can't love someone you dont know.
who's correct?
And there's something else, too. A lot of people, even at my age, ask people out... Just because. They don't love them. Saying that "falling in love comes after"... What's the point ? I don't understand. This is so unrespectful."
Me: dating is fun, you dont date someone because you love them, if you wait til you start loving someone before dating them, then you're probably never going to get the chance to date them in the first place because they are going to move on. dating is how you get to know someone, that is the point of dating, taking them out for coffee or tea or burgers or whatever, wholesome conversation. yes... love comes after dating because you can't love someone you dont know.
who's correct?